How is it that in the morning we can feel balanced, relaxed and ready for the day. Fully in touch with our emotions, clear in our thoughts and calm in our body, despite this state as soon as we step outside, everything changes! We walk into a town high street, a shopping centre or a crowded supermarket and suddenly feel unbalanced, stressed or anxious. Thoughts start racing, emotions rise, tension grips our body and we always feel rushed and late.
Here’s an important consideration: “what we feel is not always us.”
We are sensitive beings, far more aware of energy than we often give ourselves credit for. The more inner work we do, the more sensitive we become to the subtle vibrations around us, the atmosphere of places and spaces, the frequency of people, the unspoken and unseen energy constantly moving through us and the situations we find ourselves in. Our energetic system doesn’t always recognise that it is not us, it can mistake what belongs to the outside world as our own, and we end up carrying the weight of energies that were never ours to begin with.
Picking up on other people’s energy
As I’ve shared before, places hold specific frequencies and energy – read Moments of magic are all around us. Rooms, landscapes, and environments have their own vibration, and when we pass through them, we can feel a shift. Sometimes it’s uplifting, even magical, giving us just the nudge we need for our next thought or insight. This goes a little to explain why sometimes we have a gut instinct, we need to visit a certain place at a certain time, our body directing us towards something we need.
In my experience, people work in much the same way. Every individual resonates at their own unique frequency. People enter our lives at particular times and not always by accident, but because their resonance carries something our system needs to evolve. They may not arrive as traditional ‘teachers’ in the formal sense, but just their presence acts as a catalyst.
It could be a conversation, a word, a look, a gentle touch, or simply the energy of sitting quietly in their company. Something falls into place. Something aligns within our system and a realisation emerges. These encounters are often overlooked until after the fact, but they serve a very important purpose. Trust within ourselves, listening to our body, intuition and energetic system, an invitation to flow freely, follow your heart and bring what is needed in the moment, without resistance. A loving appreciation for the value of people and Mother Earth.
How to develop intuition and awareness: The challenge of energy exchange
Be mindful with your energy and focus. As naturally giving beings, we want to help. When someone we care about is struggling, our instinct is only to help, this usually involves giving your time, focus and importantly your energy. Alternatively we want to take away their pain and heal it for them, keep our loved ones safe and protected. If we are not aware of our energy, our kindness and love for giving can blur boundaries. We begin to hold and carry what is not ours, we want to process and heal for them.
Our love and kindness can rob people of their own healing experience and create a co-dependency. It sounds harsh but simply put, if I give you my energy and you are successful, who is successful? It me, because you used my energy. If you are sick and I give you my energy to heal, I have essentially taken away the opportunity for you to heal yourself and build confidence in your own healing ability. I have created a co-dependency and reliance on my energy.
The first step in working with this awareness is learning to update our system. To pause and ask the question, does this feeling or energy belong to me? By doing this, we teach the subconscious and energetic body to recognise our authentic frequency and to distinguish it from the frequencies which are not ours but have been intertwined within us.
My thought on this is simply, we cannot process what doesn’t belong to us. When we try, we simply feed the energy. Healing and processing happens more efficiently and authentically within our own system. We learn and we evolve through experience, feeling it for ourselves, sometimes it’s impossibly hard, but always worthwhile.
Coming back to yourself
The practice is simple, though not always easy, come back to yourself. Reconnect with the part of you that is constant, the quiet awareness that has been with you since the moment you entered this reality. That part of you is unshakable, even when the world feels overwhelming.
Sometimes it takes silence. Sometimes it takes breath. Sometimes it takes grounding yourself in the natural world or stepping back from environments that overwhelm. But in all cases, return to what feels authentic within you.
1:1 Sessions – a space to return to your authenticity
In my work with clients over the years, the first step is to help them recognise what is theirs and what is not theirs. So many of us are unknowingly carrying other people’s energy, trying to process it and wondering why we feel stuck, heavy or overwhelmed.
In a 1:1 session, we create a safe, focused space to reconnect with your authentic frequency. I hold space and through the medium of art we explore the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual layers of your being and gently separate what is truly yours from what has become entangled. This is not about cutting things away, it is about bringing your awareness back to what feels right for you and allowing everything else to find its own space.
If you are feeling the weight of energies that don’t belong to you, or if you sense that you are more sensitive than ever before and need guidance in navigating that sensitivity, I invite you into this work. These sessions are an opportunity to reset, realign and rediscover the authentic strength of your own frequency.
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Self-healing awareness
Hold a space of love for yourself, during this week try to pay attention to the moments when you feel a shift in mood or energy, or when the thought of someone or somewhere arrives in your mind unexpectedly. Pause and ask: How do I feel, is this mine? Or am I picking up on something or someone around me? Notice what happens when you gently step back into your authentic self and hand back what isn’t yours.
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Creating community. In groups sessions, workshops and on retreats, bonds of friendships are created and energetic spaces become defined. Richard is continuing to develop an aftercare and integration space to help you navigate the next steps following these experiences. Monthly updates and ‘Active Relaxation’ tracks will be shared to help you better recognise yourself and feel comfortable within your natural journey. Subscribe to the ‘Aftercare and Integration’ space.
Written by Richard Stuttle